Tuesday, September 30, 2014

The Pokemon Buffet

I've realized recently an important truth. I need to be patient and appreciate things for what they are instead of wanting to have it all especially when it comes to friendship.

I used to think, and sometimes I fall in to the trap, of treating friendship like Pokemon, with a "gotta catch 'em all" mentality. Over the past weeks I realized that I need to appreciate the friends I have and care for them instead of trying to collect more. 


Along those same lines, I'm reminded of a principle one of my counselors taught me regarding the difference between American Buffet and French Cuisine. 

Americans have the tendency to eat until they are stuffed


The French, on the other hand, treat food as an experience and seek to relish each bite. They appreciate the experience rather than trying to just alleviate hunger


I realized that I need to treat friendships the same way, especially in the way I approach friendships with other men. Instead of viewing friend-boys as "fresh meat" and trying to get all of my needs met, I think a much more balanced and healthy approach is to appreciate friendship for what it is, enjoying the experience of friendship instead of metaphorically stuffing my face full in an attempt to satisfy all of MY needs and desires.  

More often than not, I think joy is found in the journey. Today I choose to treat friendship as the treasure it is, instead of like a Pokemon Buffet. 

Friday, September 26, 2014

Pain Will Make You Stronger

Because no superhero movie is complete without SSApplicable advice, here is what Professor X says to his younger self (who is coming to terms with a painful experience) in the newest X-Men Movie:
Professor X: "It's not their pain you're afraid of, it's yours, Charles. And as frightening as it may be...pain will make you stronger. If you allow yourself to feel it, embrace it, it will make you more powerful than you ever imagined. It's the greatest gift we have, to bear pain without breaking, and it's born from the most human power: Hope."
Parts of the journey can be painful and uncomfortable, but through Christ I know it will only make us stronger in the end.

Made to Thrive


While attending "Seven Essentials to Thriving in the Journey" at the North Star Conference, the song "Thrive" by Casting Crowns came to my mind multiple times and I have reflected on the lyrics quite a bit during this past week as I continue to process what I learned and how it can help me reconcile faith and feelings.

This piece of music expresses the attitude that I am learning and hoping to develop in regards to Same-Sex Attraction, with the help of family, friends, and most importantly the Lord.


I firmly believe that those of us who experience SSA were "made for so much more than ordinary life" and that we can find "joy unspeakable, faith unsinkable, [and] love unstoppable" as we do "more than just survive."

I know I still have a lot to learn about this journey and experience, and I look forward to gaining further insights, because I know that we were NOT made to suffer without hope or without peace.
"We were made to THRIVE"